How I Went From A Lonely & Frustrated Older Man To Finding The Relationship I Always Wanted
To say I was fed up with my dating life is an understatement.
Like many mature men, I started doubting my ability to attract a woman I’d want to spend the rest of my life with. I had just gotten out of a 5-year relationship with a woman I was sure I’d spend the rest of my life with. But then she left me.
I really spiraled down. I was super depressed and lonely for months. All I could see was the clock ticking, and I was pretty much convinced that every day that went by lessened my chances of meeting “her.” The ONE.
I kept telling myself, “All the good ones are taken.” My online dating experience was a disaster too. I really tried, you know? I put up a bunch of profile pics, I wrote up a cool profile, and I behaved like a total gentleman who would actually read a woman’s profile, and take the time to respond to her with something other than “I like your profile. Wanna chat?”
Guess what I got? Crickets.
And I’m not the bar type so now what? I was just about to resign myself to a boring life of binge-watching Netflix.
One day, I ran into an older guy I knew - probably a decade older than me. He was with this gorgeous woman and they were obviously crazy about each other - and no, it wasn’t one of those gold-digger situations either. He’s a working class guy who has worked his ass off his whole life. He’s not good looking, either. You might even say he’s “fugly,” or fat and ugly. And short. And balding.
So I went home thinking, what does he have, that made this gorgeous woman say “yes”?
What IS it that makes women want to date older men who don’t have the bank account, looks or the social status that we all think is necessary?
And more intriguingly, how come so many “nice guys” really do finish last?
I actually called him up and we got together for drinks, and during our conversation I realized… it was actually his age that was attractive. Well not the years on the calendar, but the experience, the history, the interesting stuff that made him who he is. AND he knew how to turn that to his advantage in dating.
That blew my mind.
Age wasn’t a disadvantage at all! I realized if HE could do it, so could I!
I could actually turn my age to an unfair advantage. My life experience, my scars, my history... I could leverage these to make myself fascinating and attractive to women I was actually interested in.
What I learned was that dating is a skill. Like any skill, you can learn how to date. No matter what you look like or how much you make.
I took a good hard look at myself and what I’d been doing wrong. “Ouch” is the first thing I thought… I was so ridiculously awkward and misguided that it’s no wonder I got more “No’s” than a door-to-door salesman!
So I decided to go about it more scientifically.
After talking to my “fugly” friend some more - who gave me the dating secrets I had no idea even existed, I became fascinated in the science of dating.
I researched attraction between men and women. I delved into psychology. I obsessed about finding out what makes some men more attractive to women than others - and I’m NOT talking about the 6’4” ultra-fit, handsome, rich jet-set types - I’m talking about Average Joes, the ones where you see them with a beautiful woman and wonder how in the heck he landed HER.
I dug deep into what makes a woman want to come back for a second date. And a third. And what I had to do - and not do - to have her chasing me.
I learned what it means to make a great first impression. And I learned how to make great conversation and never allow those awkward silences ruin a date. I started to put it into practice and slowly started seeing improvement. After a couple of years of refining the techniques I finally nailed the formula.
And that’s why I want to hand over to you my EXACT formula for attracting and dating HIGH QUALITY women you want to have a real relationship, not the low-hanging fruit just looking for a hookup (or a sugar daddy).