Here’s Why Dating Is HARD For Older Guys Like Us
The main reason most mature men have a hard time successfully dating is because they believe they’re too old (or too fat, too poor, etc.). I believed it. Just like a lot of older men, I talked myself out of even approaching really cool women.
A lot of older guys will hide behind false (and obnoxious) bro-bravado, sleazy pick-up lines, they bend over backwards to be nice, or they just plain give up.
I’m not the bro type, I’m not into hookups, and so I tried being ultra-nice, just like men are told to be in school, the movies and nearly everywhere else. That got me absolutely nowhere. Honestly, I was on the verge of giving up.
Well it’s not your fault if you’ve failed because you’ve been using these ways to get dates. It’s just because we’re all told that once we hit 40 it’s all downhill from there.
Well yes, some guys really do give into that lie. They give up, let themselves go, stop being interesting (or interested) in life… (and sex)… and basically think their only option is to be the creepy jerk at the club.
Or, they get dejected about their prospects and resign themselves to a monk-like existence without the female company they crave.
Or, they genuinely want to date but have no earthly clue how to be attractive to the women they are attracted to. (Tip - being “ultra nice” equals “boring” and “creepy” in a woman’s mind!)
Or, they’ve been married so long (and are now back “on the market”) but don’t know how to date so they try the same tactics they used in high school.
So let me tell you a secret.
It’s not looks, it’s not money, it’s not any of that shallow stuff that makes women say “yes.” You don’t have to be a 6’4” athlete or a millionaire. In fact, you can get great women to date you even if you are a little overweight, don’t drive a hot car, and don’t show off the bling.
But I didn’t know this at first. I suffered from the same anxiety that has most guys over 40 shakin’ in their boots just thinking about their dating prospects.